Some people get curious of me. They try to figure me out. They try to size me up, categorize me, put me in a pigeon hole so that they could get more comfortable around me. I guess a very common human trait (even I share) is that we are uncomfortable with unfamiliarity.
People ask me -
People ask me -
- Where I really from - India, Japan, China, Sri Lanka?
- Is my country really poor?
- What is your religion? Do you go to church? Why are you not religious?
- Do I have a girl friend? Am I currently dating? Am I married?
- How long have been living in the states? Why are u in this country?
- Do I miss my family? Do any of my folks live here?
Most of the time, I do not feel comfortable to respond to few of the personal questions above unless I know you for a long time (what is at least for a week). If I am an asshole, I usually want to say, "Shut the Fuck Up". But I usually say this is personal, or why don't u google it?
Now I understand I am not a very open & easy person to understand. Heck I don't understand myself so much. I still like putting a smile in my face when greeting people, and listen them deeply. But I hate situation when people interview me with personal questions to size me up.
I am very intelligent guy. I observe things of people that will make them insecure or make the cry. But I overlook them. I wish ordinary people could be that considerate. Since this is humanly impossible to be comfortable with unfamiliarity, my response will always be "this is personal". You can't teach an old dog (or even younger ones) new tricks.