How do you react when a friend behaves as if s/he never knew you?

Today I was in a social event and I was hanging out with my staff members of a part-time job. I was excited to meet everyone, give them a charming smile, crack some jokes, enjoy fun conversations and make new friends! But haven't you ever approached some acquaintances who act like they never know you or never even say "hello"?

It did happen to me today with one of my coworkers! Every time we were in close proximity and I am giving eye contact, my coworker didn't respond back. It made me ponder when I never received even a "hello"! Sometimes it makes me confused. With a confused state of mind, I ended up asking these questions. Does the person just do not like me? Is she too shy to say "Hi" to me first? Is she waiting for me to greet her first? Why she overlooked me when walked passed me? Is she just mad because I didn't approach first? Am I not good enough?

After I calmed down a little bit, I realized that I was over analyzing a trivial situation. People are just different. They might have a bad day. They might be too shy. They might just not like me anymore. They might feel insecure. They could also be mad at me. They might might not like my new hair style. They might think they are not good enough. There could be dozens of unknown possibilities, and there is no way to know unless you "ask" or just "read" minds. I do believe I can never please every humans in the planet, just like every humans cannot please me. For example, I feel displeased if someone has severely bad breath, shaky handshake and invade my personal space! In the same and extreme way, a serial killer can never please me to be his/her friend.

Couple of lessons I have learnt from this "troubled" situation:

1. I would rather be forward than wait for someone to meet me.
2. I would always ask, rather than assume something "horrible". Most of the time our imagination exaggerate the situation.
3. People have different rules and values. Next time I feel confused, I would rather try to understand him first, before being understood.

So, how do you react when a friend acts like s/he never knows you? Comment, Below! Don't worry I know your intentions are always good! :P

What an ungrateful bastard?!?

I used to see myself as a peace-loving, god-fearing, law-abiding guy during my early teenage days. I thought if I continue to be nice and comply with everyone's wish, I would live an "easy" life in earth and heaven. I know it's fucking cheesy, but it was me 3 years ago. I was also very faithful to my parents, siblings and relatives. I was being respectful and everything; but you and I both know that life is never so "cheesy" :)

Now the "however" part. Ever since my early 20s and living on my own in United States, I have started demanding more for myself and others. I dislike settling for less! For example, a couple of days ago, I was given an iPod nano as a present from my elder brother. That iPod does not cost much, but the data stored inside it cost over $4000. There are some confidential/copyrighted stuffs which I am asked not to share with others. I should be feeling really lucky because I don't get much pricey stuffs so often.

Instead, I focused on the negative aspects. I started to feel "unloved" coz I was not given the latest "iPod" touch. I also started to feel little worried if my "rich" friends find out that I am using less expensive and not-so-shiny toys than theirs. What if the gym rats find that amusing to see me with a 2nd generation iPod nano when I am workout in the weighting room?!? I know he could afford to buy me the expensive one; why didn't he? Am I that inferior? Later, I have started to realize it was really ungrateful of me to think such way. Like any ignorant human being, I thought green is greener on the other side.

Many times in my life, I have been well-treated/mistreated by people around me. But I do believe during that very moment, I have a "choice" to see it in positive or negative light. For a moment I forgot how lucky I am to have an elder brother who mentors me to be a better person; and, asked me to use that iPod for training purpose e.g. personal development. I only thought of glass half empty instead of half full. I am an ungrateful bastard. I must learnt how to be more grateful of my life, and the gifts my life has given me. And I am glad i am letting you know that I have learnt my lesson.

What are the 3 things are you grateful of in your life? Write in the comment section, Below!

Can motions create good emotions?

Every time I am complimented by my team members, random strangers, coworkers, couple of things I almost always hear from others. I never really received those compliments until I make "smile" a frequent part of my life!

"You seem so pleasant all the time"
"You talk with people, and seem genuinely interested"
"You are so smiley!"
"You make me laugh for no reason"

Smile is a facial expression which could be easily done by a normal human being with a deformed/normal facial tissues. It is easier than writing 1500 words essay, cramming for an extremely difficult/stupid/lame calculus exam, or lifting 150 lbs for chest press. My point it smile is easy! I don't know why some dudes "just" don't smile or do it once a week. Frowning does not make you tougher or more charismatic....

I remember Anthony Robbins (#1 peak performance expert) wrote in his book, "Awaken The Giant Within" that motions create emotions. He stated that positive, outrageous or confident body movements could make dramatic changes in our emotional state. People could change their lives if they keep positive body language consistently. Here are couple of questions I want you to ponder: Can you explain why you feel great when your significant other kisses you? Why "kiss" is more emotionally stimulating than just a "pat" in your back? Why firm "handshake" demonstrates "confidence"? Because different motions create different emotions. When I smile, my brain tends to believe "I am happy" and secrete chemicals which cause stimulating emotions. If you frown, swing your hands slowly like a bored symphony instructor for a while, I can guarantee you that you start feel bored.

KEEP THIS IN MIND:
Our emotions are nothing more than biochemical storms in our brains. So why would you want some chemicals to ruin the rest of your day?

Just dance, grin silly in front of the mirror, sing loudly, breath rapidly and shake your legs playfully (It works for me every time I get bored with work), skydiving, run 5K, play with your fingers or reinvent something which works for you. If you can create really amazing motions, I can guarantee some phenomenal change in your emotions for sure. Smile is a facial expression, and I tend to use it very well!

What kind of motion/physical activity works for you? Make sure to comment below because your motion puts a smile in my face. :)