Sometimes I imagine my life could have been so much better if I didn't assume how people react or think of me in the past few years. I sometimes I made complete a fool out of myself in relationships, career, and health just because I do not challenge my thoughts. Here are 7 food of thoughts that I want to share with you:
- Remember the time you were offered some cheese cakes by your mom, and you were little concerned about your health so you politely said, "No". But your mom somehow convinced you that a little "bite" does not hurt your health. In the end those small couple hundred "bites" actually made you gain overwhelming amount of weight in such a short period of time?
- How about the time you were completely lost in the road/highway, and were desperate to find your way home? You just don't want to ask the Mr. Police officer for a ride, because you "felt" that you might look stupid.
- Can you recall the time you just want to compliment someone's stunning hair, but "thought" that you might look sheepish? You just walk away, and miss your chance to make a new friend.
- How about your frustrating days at school? You just couldn't ask a simple question because you were afraid to look "stupid" in front of your classmates, or experience the wrath of the imaginary angry teacher!
- Can you remember a time this week when were afraid to say "No" to your coworker to cover for him because you don't want to be disappointing/unreliable?
- How about never bothering to say "hello" to your neighbor because you "thought" that you might intrude his or her day? When was the last time you were annoyed when someone "greeted" you?
- When was the last time you actually wrote something nice to your high school friend's facebook wall? Because you thought you might appear too cheesy.
Now time to ask few questions! How do you know "exactly" what the other person is actually thinking? Did he tell you? Is it his behavior or facial expression? If his body language is telling you, how do you know that "every" man or woman in the world have the same "thoughts" in that body gesture? How do you also know you will get a "cold" look if you compliment someone? When was the last time your professor ever turned into an incredible "hulk" while you asked a super simple questions? Can you provide me reliable statistics to prove your assumptions? If yes, how many percent of human population could actually support your theory? I understand that people do have different rules and expectations, and you are bound to meet few weirdos latter part of your life. Should we assume what our friends, neighbors and strangers will react in the way few people treated you in the past? My point is let us stop playing the "guessing" game, and challenge what we are actually thinking. In my experience, simply being aware of your thought actually eliminate lots of assumptions that is paralyzing what you want to do.
Now is your turn! What is one assumption you usually make that is limiting your life? Comment, Below!
One assumption that I can't forget is when I thought some of my friends think that I can't do to achieved what they got because of our differences in education, that's limit me to show them that I can achieve more than what they can. But after that, I realized that Why do I need to be affected with what they think? Then, I start moving until they found it that I can be more than what they think.
ReplyDeleteI used to compare myself with my friends a lot in the past. My elder brother once told me that "comparing" myself with everyone will only cause sadness in my life! He is right. There is always going to be someone better than me, but I also find ppl who are in worse condition than I am. It is inevitable, but quite relieving. That is a topic I will talk in the future posts. Thanks for always commenting! :)
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